Good Morning everyone!
This is a notion that seems to have been placed under unwritten code. It is not something that is foreign to us and I have only started to think about it in light of recent events.
The truth is that we conform to the double standard because we live in a GENDERED society. Many of my friends who are LGBTQ will argue that we live in a heteronormative society, which is unfortunately true.
Men and women act in certain ways because they believe that these are behaviours that are prescribed for their gender. I have lost count of how many times a man and I have both opened a door at the same time and he said “Ladies first”. Usually, I am in too much of a hurry to argue and end up thanking him. In hindsight, what are the implications of such a behaviour? That women must walk in front of a man that can protect them? That men are trying to appease women in spite of both past and present inequality? These are just mere suggestions but the fact of the matter is that this behaviour is not as superficial as one may assume.
One can argue that the man is just being polite but why is it that when a woman opens the door for a man, it is not responded with the same positivity? I am a woman who will gladly open a door for anyone regardless of gender in order to prevent obstruction as well as being polite.
It is hard to picture living our lives in ways that do not prescribe to gender but just think: A human is a human is a human. One can argue that men and women have different body parts that can do things that the other cannot but the truth is that our bodies are more similar than different. We both can live life and create life.
If there are really no significant gender differences, why do we act like they exist? The double standard has extended itself into dating and that’s what gets annoying. The man has to ask the woman out, has to pay, has to drive her, etc. The worse part is that a vast amount of women are okay with these expectations as they appear to benefit them but do they really? These manners only show the dependence of women rather than the independence that women have strived to achieve for centuries.
Ladies and gentleman, let’s not let these gendered social norms affect our lives. Instead of finding a husband or a wife, why not a partner in life?
Ladies, you can pay the bill. Gentleman, you can choose monogamy. Why conform to these ridiculous stereotypes that produce nothing but nonsense?
As I have said before, love is not complicated; people are. However, society complicates these people more than necessary.
Here’s a tip: spoil each other, regardless of gender. You will end up spoiling yourselves as each of you are giving the other person the most that you can give.
I am a heterosexual woman but will refuse to “act like a lady”. Instead, I am a human being who will love someone in my own way.
The Modern Day Fairy Godmother