The Bachelor-Bachelorette Double Standard

I have been a loyal Bachelor/Bachelorette fan for the past ten years. I have witnessed the romance, the tears, the laughter and of course, the drama. However, as I have grown, I have noticed something completely appalling.

If anyone watched last night’s episode, Andi’s first group date was to OHM nightclub where the guys had to strip for charity. The men’s nerves seemed to barely be an issue as the guys stripped down to speedos and man thongs and had some fun while Andi and the ladies were cheering them on.

On the contrary, I had to say that if this was The Bachelor and the women had to swing around some poles for charity, there would be riots everywhere. It may be the result of having the majority of viewers being female but still, we are easy to call Juan Pablo a pig but how about Andi?

Past Bachelor seasons had women in less than clothing situations. Jason’s season had the women paint moulds of their breasts and Juan Pablo had Andi and Lily have signs placed strategically over genitals and breasts and of course, their only defense was that everything was in the name of charity. Nonetheless, there was a different vibe, almost an awkward one in The Bachelor than it was in last night’s episode.

What do you guys think? Let me know by writing a comment!


The Modern Day Fairy Godmother


Signs that they are cheating

Hey everyone,

So I haven’t posted a “heartbreak” post in a while and don’t worry, things are going great with the guy with whom I am speaking. I was inspired to write this post by reading an article by Patti Stanger from Millionaire Matchmaker. I love Patti because I usually take a no nonsense approach to things like she does but I had to disagree with her post on signs to tell if someone is cheating. In my opinion, they were very generic. Therefore, as a result of being cheated on multiple times, I thought that I would share my list with you:

  1. Gut instinct. Patti mentioned this in her blog and I agree with her as well. If something is not right, it probably isn’t.
  2. Contact with a past lover or former significant other. This happens way too often. An EX can easily become a NEXT. You should be their future, not a yoyo between their past and what they make of it.
  3. Being invited often to go somewhere with a “friend” and that friend never invites you. There is nothing wrong with your significant other having time with friends, both same sex and opposite sex, but when they are fully excluding you, be aware.
  4. Hanging out in inappropriate places. Do they love the strip clubs or like spending one on one time in a hot tub with a person they found attractive? These can be breeding grounds for infidelity.
  5. Lack of contact, affection or initiative. Sorry folks, they have lost interest.
  6. Lack of attention. Constantly texting when you are trying to talk to them?  Not really listening to what you have to say? This could represent a lack of interest or that they have developed interest elsewhere.
  7. They are controlling or constantly on edge. They have something to hide, that’s why and they want to limit your resources of knowledge of figuring that out.

Agree with my list? Disagree? Did I leave something out? Want to share your story?  Write a comment!


The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Who is Responsible For Your Happiness?

A great article! I would like to add that the reason why we should make another person happy is because the essence of who they are is a bonus to our happiness, not a foundation for it. You need to be happy first within yourself and then making an another person happy should be recipricol on the part of both you and your significant other

Love is patient

Hey everyone,

Sorry that I haven’t been posting lately but it will officially be a part of my routine.

As of May 15th, 2014, The Modern Day Fairy Godmother has turned 1 years old! I couldn’t thank you all enough for your continued support and loyalty. This blog has been an amazing success and I look forward to future growth.

However, it hasn’t been only growth of this blog that has occurred but also personal growth. When I started this blog, I was in a relationship, thinking that I knew everything about love but it took a painful breakup to realize I didn’t. I have learned to love myself and realized what works best for me and I would like to thank you all for embarking on this journey with me.

Anyways, I have learnt a lot from online dating. The art of conversation has true value and I’m glad that the people whom I have met can carry on great conversations.

Unfortunately, I learned the hard way that someone with common interests and similar background stories doesn’t not always equate to being a perfect match. I was talking to one guy with whom I had so much in common but he realized that he couldn’t handle a serious relationship at this point in his life. I appreciated his honesty, despite my frustration, but we may become friends in the future.

What I have learned is that it is good to have things in common but it is much more important to have similar mind sets. I have met a wonderful man who is truly a go getter and pensive just like I am and really makes an effort to get to know me. He is always the first to compliment and he always end our conversations with “Thank you for the inspiring conversation”.

I know that my purpose in life is to be an inspiration but I am so happy to make this guy as happy as he makes me. I haven’t known him for long but I see true potential but I’ll try to contain my excitement.

He is always eager to ask me about my day and vice versa. He asked me to play 21 questions which is something that I like to do for which my friends tease me, so it was nice to find someone who enjoys that as well.

Let’s hope for the best and I wish you nothing but luck in your love lives 🙂

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother