Holding on……

Holding on……

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Going on vacation

Going on vacation

Hey everyone,

just letting you all know that I will be going on vacation…again lol. It won’t be frosty Montreal this time but somewhere tropical (location will be revealed when I return on the 14th). In the meantime, get your summer lovin on!

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Quick Meditation on Love and Marriage: Don’t Wait

Quick Meditation on Love and Marriage: Don’t Wait

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Here’s today’s quick meditation on love and marriage:

Don’t wait until  problem becomes so huge that neither one of you can talk about the issue. Waiting creates anger, resentment, miscommunication, assumptions, and distance–all negative things for a marriage. As painful as the truth may be or speaking words you’re still struggling to deal with, address the issues now before there’s a gulf so huge that it will take a boat to get you back to the one you love.

With an anchor,

Laura

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“Hearing is with your ears, listening is with your heart”

“Hearing is with your ears, listening is with your heart”

This quote has always been inspirational for me. I first saw this quote in an agenda I had in the fourth or fifth grade. I thought it would be nice to start off this post.

I have said before that a relationship takes love, communication, appreciation and trust. This expression embodies communication completely. In a relationship, listening to one another is essential. It develops more than communication; it develops understanding. When we listen to one another, we understand the other person’s concerns, doubts, goals, woes and triumphs. A relationship is not about a title, nor should it ever be. It’s about two people and people are complicated. Therefore, time is needed in order to truly understand someone.

Superman and I are different in how we like to keep in contact. I am more of a traditional phone conversationalist where he likes to send me essays via text. After a long day at work, he likes to wind down and watch sports highlights. The first thing to come to anyone’s mind:

“How can sports or television be more important than talking to you?”

The fact of the matter is that even after talking on the phone and while he is enjoying his “me time”, he still makes an effort to text me. Not one word answers but complete well thought out paragraphs that indicate that he is listening to me but doesn’t want me to hear his groggy voice on the phone. I understand that I am a priority but I am not his only one.

From understanding, you learn to respect the person. If you go into a first date saying to yourself that you will change them, you’re doing it wrong. We are all going to have pet peeves but they are a part of the person. Your significant other may not express his affection and commitment in the same ways that you do and you shouldn’t expect them to. Otherwise, you would be dating yourself.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

 

Wedding Wars

Wedding Wars

In light of wedding season, I thought that this topic  would be important. So you’re planning a wedding or in a wedding party and you are thinking of every last detail from the position of the flowers to the carefully chosen words of your speech to when songs will be played. The best piece of advice I can give anyone? RELAX!

Not everything is going to be 100% perfect the  day of the wedding. Something is going to slip but the most important thing is focus on the fact that you or someone close to you has found their soulmate is getting married. Isn’t that what this day is all about?

We make fun of bridezillas but why? It’s because they focus on every last, tedious, minuscule detail as opposed to the big picture of the wedding. A wedding day symbolizes more than just a large celebration in and of itself; it is the celebration of the beginning of a marriage, a loving lifetime commitment.

Last weekend, I was a bridesmaid for my aunt’s wedding. It was a beautiful day but we did have a few wedding mishaps. Here are a list of wedding oops that we have encountered:

  • Got lost in a parking lot
  • My mother’s hand getting stung by a mysterious bug
  • Staining my dress merely an hour before the wedding
  • The stylist messing up my hair
  • flowergirls getting a bit fussy when taking pictures
  • The best man forgot the rings
  • Forgetting the props for a speech
  • Groomsman got drunk

However, here is a list of all the positives that happened:

  • My aunt got married to the love of her life
  • Everyone looked stunning
  • Everyone’s speech was great from the oldest to the youngest member of the wedding party
  • We all busted out some great dance moves
  • The food was yummy
  • We all had a great time

In life, it’s about what matters most: our love for another.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

I Am A Woman Who Survived.

I Am A Woman Who Survived.

This is so moving! A must read

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Jen here. I have a broken foot as many of you know, so I am giving the site all my attention right now. I am over the moon with the posts these days! Pinching myself! Today’s essay is one I hope you will read and share and help me make viral. This is so well-written, so important. Anyone, and I mean anyone, who has known abuse- you are not alone. And you don’t need to stay. Janine Canty, you blew me away with this beautifully nuanced and heartbreaking piece.

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I Am A Woman Who Survived. By Janine Canty.

Every October I wear a purple ribbon.

It represents women who have lost their lives to senseless violence. It represents men and children who have lost their lives to senseless violence. It represents people who died too young, with most of their words still inside them. It represents the empty place at…

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A little bit closer

A little bit closer

Hey everyone,

So you’re exclusive, you go on a few dates, you have those long two hour conversations, perhaps a first kiss and interest is developing. Now what? The excitement of a potential relationship is at the tip of your tongue but slow down. You still need some time before making it official.

It can be really obvious that the both of you are compatible but wouldn’t you want a relationship to make sense for the BOTH of you first? Just because it only took your exes one month of dates before getting into a relationship doesn’t mean that your next suitor is going to be the same way. After all, your exes are exes for a reason and it’s not a smart idea to make them your dating guideline.

You have to take that time to invest in someone and in really getting to know someone before making them your significant other. Who wants to date a stranger? Certainly you will discover new things about them everyday but you should know many of the IMPORTANT things about them first such as something simple as their favourite colour to if they want kids to what they think their purpose in life is, etc.

I would average at about three dates before getting into my past relationships but it didn’t do me any favours. I felt like I had no idea who they were, they weren’t being open and honest and all of a sudden, they would have an identity crisis. I feel like relationships take more than just a “couple’s quiz” to measure if you know enough about one another. They take TIME.

You shouldn’t go into every date wondering when he/she will ask about a relationship. In that sense, you are in love with the idea of a relationship and not the person. You are using them as a means to an end. Sure, you want a relationship and may have not been in one for a while but it’s even better to get to know someone where they can put the “friend” in girlfriend or boyfriend.

Wouldn’t you want someone to say “I love you, (insert name)” because they love everything about you? Your dreams, flaws and successes included? Or would you rather have someone just say “I love my boyfriend/girlfriend” which could be so meaningless when it conveys solely loving the idea of a relationship.

Love should be like a flower and continuously grow rather than a racecar rushing to the finish line.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother