Are you going to try or are you going to let love die?

I’m serious. It’s as simple as that: try or let love die. We speak often about things just not working out or falling out of love with someone but are they just excuses for allowing a relationship to falter? I believe so.

Sometimes, the worst of breakups happen because problems are festered and not dealt with. It’s that very accumulation that gets in the way of intimacy, growth and strength as a couple; rather it creates distance and resentment that when that accumulation becomes a larger problem than how it started, it is truly unfortunate.

Must we play games? Relationships should not be a game of hide and go seek. Be honest and if you care, work things out. If not, have enough respect for the person to leave and not let them on. Our parents’ and grandparents’ generation was one that was persistent. You can blame that persistence on times of turmoil as the result of war. It could have been a part of it but it was a value that should be carried on regardless of good or bad times. It’s a value that you kept the old car, the house with the leaky roof, the scuffed up shoes and the nagging wife or husband because it meant something special. It may require a little fixing but in no time, everything would be like new.

It’s about investment: long term investment in those that you care about. After all, no one brags about the marriage that lasts only a day.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

 

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