Too busy to care?

I have a confession: I am a workaholic. After all, what sane person is writing a blog at midnight when they want to go for an early morning run?

I have a need to always be productive. I have a 5-year plan. I have daily to-do lists made months in advance. I am always looking for new inspiration, new projects and new opportunities. Sitting on the couch does not sit well with me (pardon the pun). Even going out makes me feel productive because I am putting effort into my family, relationship and friendships.

There is one thing that is not consistent with being a workaholic: I am not too busy to care.

I will never be the mother who is booking appointments over the phone while at her daughter’s dance recital. Fatigue from work may limit me but it does not excuse me from others. Instead of going clubbing after work, I may opt for a romantic night-in and some warm cuddles. Whenever I am with someone I care about, the phone is away. It is not even in my pocket. It is in my purse, on the ground. After all, out of sight, out of mind.

I may casually check it every couple of hours to make sure that no one is dying but other than that, I am not glued to it. There is no reason to be. How can one enjoy every moment in life if they are avoiding it through a screen? More importantly, how can you COMMUNICATE in a relationship when you are not communicating at all?

Put down the phone and have some face time that is not created by Steven Jobs. I have always hated phones at the dinner table. My family will know dinner time around the table. People should not only be the source of a wifi password. The best moments of my life (getting on High School Honour Roll, accepted to Canada’s Top University, asked to be the girlfriend of the best man in the world, conquering anxiety and much more) did not happen via a screen. It happened organically, naturally and spontaneously. That’s how every relationship should be.

True love is never superficial. Take care of it.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

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Relationship Myths: What to Keep and What to Ignore

It’s spring, even though it does not feel like it yet. This is the perfect time to fall in love. You avoid those desperate fools looking for a valentine or a New Year’s kiss at midnight. However, being recently single or deciding that it is time can be complicated. Friends and family put so much advice in your way that you may not know which to follow or which to ignore. Here is my list of common myths and whether you should keep them or ignore them:

DO NOT KISS ON A FIRST DATEKeep!

On a first date, you are still getting to know one another and nerves at an ultimate high. Leave them with wanting a little more.

WAIT THREE DAYS AFTER THE FIRST DATE TO MESSAGE THEM-Ignore!

If you are interested, message them that night. People like hearing that you enjoyed the date and want to get to know them better. You will give them a smile going from ear to ear.

THE GUY SHOULD ALWAYS PAYIgnore!

The person who asked someone on a first date should pay for the first date. Otherwise, take turns! Get on that #genderequality

COFFEE DATES ARE IDEAL FIRST DATES-Keep!

They allow you to talk and get to know one another while drinking something warm. If the date is going well, you will find that this person is as warm, if not warmer, than your coffee.

MOVIE DATES MAKE THE BEST FIRST DATES-Ignore

Staring at a screen while awkwardly sitting in seats separated by a bag of popcorn? No, thank you.

DISTANCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER-Keep!

Missing someone brings both of you together. It means that you do not take their presence for granted.

IF THE FIRST KISS DOESN’T GO EXACTLY AS IMAGINED, IT WASN’T MEANT TO BE-Ignore!

Calm your hormones! You are getting used to each other’s different kissing styles. As long as the attraction is there, don’t sweat the head-butts or the in-coordination of your tongues.

YOU SHOULD GET MARRIED BY 25-Ignore!

For most people, life is just getting started at 25 years old. Marry whenever you want.

AVOID ARGUMENTS-Ignore!

If it needs to be said, talk about it! It’s all about communication

NEVER STOP MAKING THAT PERSON FEEL LOVED EVERYDAY-Keep!

Show that person love everyday and you will see happiness for the rest of your life.

Make dating fun. Break the rules and create your own.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Each day is a gift

Superman and I celebrated 6 months a little over a month ago. We went to The Keg for dinner and our server asked if we were celebrating anything. We hesitated and then said we were celebrating a half-anniversary. We ended up getting a free dessert for it (you got to try the Billy Minor Pie. So good!)

Besides the free dessert, 6 months is something worth celebrating. Every day is worth celebrating. So why be embarrassed? One day together is not less legitimate than one year together. The love is still there and it may be a different love in the sense that you know more about one another but it is still love.

Love is a verb. Each day, I decide to give my heart to someone and to treasure them wholeheartedly. That person is the same one everyday for over seven months now (more like almost a year since I had feelings from the start) because I want him to be the love of my life and he makes me very happy.

So, if you want to celebrate one hour, one day, one month, one year or one decade, don’t let anyone stop you. You’re not juvenile for doing it.

After all, the world could use more love in it.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother