Happy New Year! It’s been a while but I got some new inspiration for you all.
I saw this article and although it has a radical title, the message couldn’t be more true.
It is in the little things. As the saying goes, don’t sweat the small stuff, but what if the small stuff is the tip of a big stuff iceberg?
In this article, the wife was upset that the husband constantly left his dishes by the sink. Sure, it’s a dish and many people get tired. However, it was never about the dish. It was about the fact that something that mattered to her was insignificant to him simply because it didn’t matter to him.
If your significant other always thought the exact same way you did, you would be dating yourself. If it’s important to them and not unreasonable, it should be important to you.
Superman does not like it when I swear even when he f@!#&ing drives me nuts. I don’t like it when he leaves the toilet seat up. We are not perfect and sometimes it feel easier to beat each other over the head with our laments than have a decent conversation. Even as the author of this love advice blog, I too can better practice what I preach. Nonetheless, these things are important enough to the other that we make our best efforts to improve.
It’s okay not to bury everything just because it is something small and to avoid having a snowball effect. Just do so lovingly, respectfully and honestly. Do not come from a place from a resentment, especially if the person is truly trying to improve.
Most of all, NURTURE. Goodness gracious, a plant dies if you don’t water it. So too can your love bond if you don’t nurture it.
Happy Hump Day xoxo.