An age old question: can exes be friends?

An age old question: can exes be friends?

Hello lovelies!

I know this question gets asked a lot and many of you are divided on this issue. Nevertheless, after years of searching for this answer and living through my own experiences, my stance is that exes cannot be friends.

I used to think that exes can be friends if the breakup was mutual but is it ever truly mutual? We are all different people with different ways of expressing ourselves that love can run deeper in one’s heart than it did another. No one ever loves exactly the same way as another person.

What had me thinking about this issue? About a month ago, I was thinking of burying the hatchet with Vince and becoming the friends that we used to be prior to our relationship. Ironically, he texted me the next day, wishing me a happy birthday. We talked things through and he apologized. Things started looking well, right?

Well, he was once immature and he has proven that he will always be immature. I found that it was always me making efforts to contact him and it seemed like he was avoiding contact with me, even though he initiated it. Whenever we did speak, it was always about his drunk and high misadventures. To top it all off, he always tried playing mind games by insinuating that he had a girl or two in his life. After three years, you would have thought that he would have gotten his act together.

Moral of the story: leopards don’t change their spots. Who your ex was will mark who they always will be.

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

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Drew x2: When exes strike back!

Drew x2: When exes strike back!

Exes are quite annoying but some are in a category onto themselves. I’m sorry if I haven’t written in a while but work has been crazy and I promise to write at least once a week. To make it up to you all, I am providing helpful advice with a very recent personal story and including every single detail.

It was 12:06 am on June 6, 2013. I was fast asleep when all of a sudden, I heard my phone receive a text message. I forgot that I had my phone set on loud. Annoyed, I ignored it and fell asleep. Shortly afterwards, my phone was being blown up and I became curious. After all, it could have been someone who had an emergency.

I checked my phone and got a message that simply said “hey, it’s drew”. The other messages were from my best friend saying that Drew was trying to get my phone number off of him but ended up finding it.

I barely slept that night. Texting me felt similar to a rape victim hearing back from their attacker. I woke up the next morning with barely any sleep and asked my mom for her advice. She said to ignore the message as he may have been drunk. I wasn’t so sure as it seemed that he was going out of his way to contact me.

I was on break at work when I received another text message from him at 9:03 am saying:

listen I know you probably don’t want to talk to me..I know I was a d*ck. I was just going thru a rough time. I’m sorry for the way I acted. I wanted to see how u were

That message left me puzzled and I didn’t know what to do. I knew that I wasn’t going to message him at work as it would leave me rattled. As I finished work, I got a call from an unknown number. I didn’t respond as it probably was Drew. I decided to respond as it seemed that he would pester me until I did something. I said

it has been quite some time since you have decided to talk to me. Why have you decided to contact me?

I didn’t hear from him for quite some time. Even my best friend asked if he had heard from me and he said no.

Today, I woke up to a text message saying that he had been thinking about me. I asked him what he wanted to achieve by talking to me? The following conversation ensued as I was on the phone with my boyfriend:

D: see how u are
M: I’m fine. Is there anything else you wanted to say?
D: I’m sorry for the way I acted and I miss you
M: the past is in the past and I do forgive but I don’t forget. I’m sorry but I am not interested in talking to you much more. I have moved on with my life.

You would think that it would be the end of that but it wasn’t.

D: Dtf?
M: no I have someone in my life
D: lol 😉 you sure…I can top whatever you are getting. Lemme sex
M: no it’s okay I’m pretty good with what I have
D: lol you’d be better off with 8 inches
M: I am done with this conversation
D: lol bye I could’ve f*cked you so good that you’d literally pass out

My best friend and I find it hilarious how desperate he is. He apologizes for being a d*ck but then acts like one. My boyfriend who is usually calm was angry about how he spoke. I’m glad I learned that I don’t need idiots in my life, especially a porn energizer bunny like him.

Moral of the story? People don’t change and true colours always come out. An ex is an ex for a reason. Focus on your next.

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother