Why Therapy and Vacations Don’t Work If You Don’t

Stress. It can get the best of us, especially during the horrible weather that we are having. It is easy for us to think about getting away and going on vacation. Does it really fix things permanently?

No relationship is ever perfect. When problems arise, it is easy to go to therapy or go on a vacation in order to get away from distractions, focus on the issues at hand and get a different perspective on things. There is nothing wrong with this strategy but it all depends on the couple’s approach.

Therapy sessions and vacations take us away from the real world. However, it can be a place for empty promises and short-lived bliss if two people are not willing to put in the work established to be completed during time away. You need to create guidelines for circumstances that come up. There will be bumps in the road but if there is no application from the resolutions you both create, it is a mere waste of time.

It is a matter of breaking the cycle of behaviour. Time away from obligations and stress is helpful for understanding why the cycle began in the first place. However, only two people who are willing to work at things will make anything beneficial a success.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

When You Know You’re Serious, It’s Not Too Serious

I have known that since day one that my relationship with Superman was serious. He took a while to ask me to be his girlfriend because he said that he dates in order to end in marriage and we have been together for almost two years, so it’s no secret that we see a future being married to one another.

We were both looking for a serious relationship and that’s what we received. However, it didn’t really settle in for me until after he sat down with my dad, my stepmother and my stepsiblings. Superman met most of my family but I felt there was something missing with him not meeting my dad’s side of the family. After that happened, I just fell more in love with him.

It was only when Superman pointed it out that I realized that I was speaking a lot about marriage since then. I was at first worried that I was scaring him but he said that he thought that it was cute. The only thing he recommended is for me to be patient in order for our lives to perfectly align, such as advancing his career and starting mine.

I called my grandmother today and she gave me heck that I had not introduced Superman to her yet. I told her that I promise I will in time. We spoke about my postgraduate plans and my career. Her instinctual response was “soon enough, you will finish school, start working full time and get married”. For some people, comments like those would freak them out. I just met it with a smile.

That’s why I say that when you know you’re serious with someone, it’s not a serious, scary ordeal. It’s inevitable and that’s when you know that you have found the one.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Struggling to find your significant other a gift? Here’s your answer!

So it’s six days until Christmas Day. If you are smart like me, your gift shopping is already done and just needs to be wrapped. If you are like the majority of people reading this and the title caught your eye, you are in a bit of a panic. Don’t worry, there is still time. After all, there are six days left.

I have read dozens of articles about the “Perfect Gift for Him/Her” and have heard the familiar lament of people claiming that men or women are difficult to buy gifts for.

I am about  to tell you something revolutionary to solve this problem.

 

 

Are you ready?

 

 

I am not sure if you are.

 

 

It is going to solve everything…..

 

 

 

 

 

 

THEY ARE NOT DIFFICULT TO BUY FOR!!!!

 

In fact, you are the one who is making it difficult for yourself. It is a matter of being attentive. We give our significant others hints without even knowing it. If you have ever been casually strolling through a mall, there will definitely be one thing they will point out that they like or something that you pointed out that they thought was nice. If you remember that moment, there is an idea.

 

Also, it was probably brought up in conversation. Remember laying down and just talking about childhood experiences or funny things you are a fan of? That’s the perfect inspiration for a gift. Superman remembered that I did ballet as a kid and got me tickets to go see The Nutcracker and I remembered that he never went to see a Leafs game and I got him tickets for a game.

However, you don’t need to be as extravagant as us. Sometimes, getting creative is never a bad thing. Do a scrapbook of favourite memories or a photo album. Knit or paint them something if that’s what you are into. After all, it is the thought that counts.

Hope this helps!

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Isn’t presence enough?

It’s the middle of wedding season, ladies and gentlemen! That means last minute fittings for wedding dresses, sprucing up bouquets, making sure your banquet hall is perfect and that your vows are something no one will ever forget. Let’s add in nerves on top of all the other things you have to worry about and then, you remember that you have to shop for something: wedding favours.

The most pointless things on the planet.

They are little statues, dinner plates, bottle stoppers or something else that you can buy for cheap. You are providing your guests with an elegant dinner, great entertainment, free alcohol and a club experience (without cover!) but they are still expecting to receive something that they will most likely throw out or sell at a garage sale?

When you are paying for all of this for your guests and your guests decide to give you money in return, I see it as a mutual exchange. Guests are not required to give a gift but most do because they know how much effort the couple has put into their wedding and have gone out of their way to accomodate all of their loved ones.

These wedding favours seem like loot bags at a children’s party.

I have been to some weddings recently and what I have seen done is money donated to a charity or a professional photographer set up for the night and each guest gets an individual, professional shot taken of themselves. These concepts seem more useful and appropriate

What do you think of wedding favours? A nice gesture or unnecessary? Sound off in the comments below!

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Passion in Your Veins and Dedication to Have It Remain

The other day I was watching The Hundred Foot Journey with my family and one quote really caught my attention:

“In this restaurant, we do not serve others an old tired marriage but rather a passionate affair”.

In this way, the same can be applied to any relationship. You need passion to keep it alive. Love is not only intellectual but also visceral. If your gut is not telling you to be drawn to that person, you don’t belong with them. That passion needs to exist, not merely a sexual one, but an inexplicable attraction that encompasses physical, emotional, mental and intellectual aspects.

At the same time, the passion must be coupled with dedication. Superman and I discussed this at the beginning of our relationship. You can have all the passion, fire and desire out there but if dedication is not continuously fuelling and keeping it stable, your relationship will soon become disastrous. You need that interest but you also need commitment.

This interdependent relationship will allow your relationship to endure. It is a wonderful mix of puppy love and realistic guidelines that fall naturally with the both of you.

Sincerely,

The Modern Day Fairy Godmother