Hey loyal readers,
It has been over a month since I have last blogged and this past hiatus has been caused by more than just laziness:
On August 20th, 2013, Doug decided to end his relationship with me.
This was not an easy pill to swallow and I was not expecting it to happen. Moreover, I wasn’t expecting for him to not even consider the possibility of being in each other’s lives as friends but at the same time, there is no possible way to go from my longest, most serious relationship to a platonic one.
I will not be describing a play by play of my breakup as I am in a point in my life where moving on is crucial. It was a messy breakup and a lot of bad memories are associated with that particular day but I am a stronger person because of this.
The reason for the breakup: not listening to my gut feelings. The past few months I felt that he was pulling away but I kept on being told by others that I was over analyzing. It got to a point where we were bickering every other day. Doug is a person that finds it difficult to open up and is very much a people pleaser, hence he had sketchingitis. Every fight we ever had, he always blamed himself and told me that I did nothing wrong when it wasn’t true. The day of the breakup was the unleashing of all these bottled up emotions he had and because of this, I believe his love for me turned into resentment. He brought up things that I thought were resolved MONTHS ago. Overall, the relationship could be described in one song: Wrecking Ball by Miley Cyrus.
I am not perfect but I feel that because of this, I can offer more to this blog than being blinded by being a Cinderella. Please note that I will never give up on love. I am a hopeless romantic and know that someone is out there for me. Right now, I just need to focus on me and be single while of course, providing my insights about love along the way. I live and I learn.
If you are going through a heartbreak right now, I feel your pain. I thought I had my soulmate but in hindsight, I know now that he wasn’t. Open up to me by commenting on this article and I will be more than willing to provide comforting words. Here is what helped me:
Delete everything (numbers, pictures, etc)
Get everything that reminded you of them and put it in a box. Place it somewhere you will never look. Remember, out of sight, out of mind.
Write them a closure letter (when you’re ready) and leave it with them by asking for no reply. Your emotions of your past will remain where they belong: in the past.
Hang with friends a lot
Do hobbies you enjoy
Cry and talk every emotion out
Don’t dwell on your breakup
It took me a while to figure out and come to terms with everything that happened but I know I’m not miserable anymore. However, I’m still adjusting not to him out of my life because that I have but not being in a relationship. It does get lonely but I am so grateful for my friends and the right person will come along at the right time.
I was the victim of not following my own advice. So please, those who have trouble in their relationships: if you’re in doubt, GET OUT!
I hope that this article inspired you. I will now be blogging on a regular basis. Thanks for your continued support. Please suggest my blog to as many people as you can as we are almost at 500 views!
Love is not a destination but a journey. It takes a while to find who will lengthen the journey but the person who does will make it all worthwhile.
The Modern Day Fairy Godmother