“Cuz I gotta have faith”

Hey everyone,

Tonight, my brother Cristiano and I were talking about our goals and ambitions. He dreams of playing soccer professionally and I know that opportunities await him as he actively pursues his passion for the sport and has the talent. Although speaking of the cornucopia of possibilities that he could encounter made me happy for him, I was saddened at the fact that I didn’t pursue my own goals.

When I was younger, any dream I had, whether it be a professional singer, a make-up artist or an author, was crushed the moment it was voiced. I know I still have all the time in the world to pursue those dreams but life got in the way and my success for my efforts hasn’t been as immediate as I would have hoped it to be.

Cristiano told me that he knew that I would have success and told me about his inspiration: a soccer player named Mario Götze. Mario was told that he wasn’t that good but this underdog made it big and his talent was recognized. What was his motto? Faith.

I think this would apply to any aspect of life, including relationships. Strive for your happiness. It will come. It may take some time but never lose faith.

A strategy I will be employing is one that Cristiano’s English teacher, Mr. Hammond, came up with. Mr. Hammond wants to get back in stellar shape; thus in order to encourage himself, he wrote the following message in marker on his bathroom mirror:

”No Excuses”.

We truly have no excuses for following our ambitions, not even doubt.

Don’t let anyone stop you from your own goals in life, not even yourself.


The Modern Day Fairy Godmother


Relationship Outage

Hey everyone,

The past couple of days, my area has been hit with several power outages that have lasted for a minimum of three hours each.  Meanwhile, I was suffering from a bad cold that took its toll on me. What do these events have in common? It served as the climax for my emotional thoughts about my past relationship.

Since about a couple of weeks ago, I started to think about Doug again. I was changing my sheets and saw that the only clean ones available were the ones that he and I cuddled in, watching Game of Thrones, on our last date. Thinking that I was brave enough to not let that memory haunt me, I used them. I was wrong.

It was the beginning of a memory flood that would last eighteen days. I got caught up in the good memories and I just thought, CRAP, what happened? I knew what happened was that he didn’t know what he wanted but it is still shocking how everything went from dreamy to disastrous. 

I broke down crying last night, just wanting to desperately move on. I just wanted to be okay.

So, I reached out to my friends and it was the best decision that I could have ever made and boy, did I get an ass-whooping!

My friend Michelle claimed that I am still the strong woman that I was back in high school. She advised that I needed to let things naturally happen, which I hadn’t been doing. There were lingering doubts at the start of my relationships with Vince, Drew and Doug. Now, I know that my next relationship has to be one that I feel good about from the start. I’m a hopeless romantic but how can I let romance happen if I am actively trying to pick up guys? I need to be the supervisor of my own lovelife, not the busboy! 

However, my friend Eve said something that really spoke to me:

“You have dealt with a lot of hard situations in your life and ended up just fine”.

Truer words have never been spoken. I have dealt with my parents’ nasty divorce and my grandmother dying from lung cancer. Therefore, I CAN MAKE IT THROUGH THIS BREAKUP! 

Just as this epiphany happened, the power came back on.

It’s not the end. It’s only the beginning.


The Modern Day Fairy Godmother

Perks of Being Single during the Holidays

Hello everyone,

So the holidays are usually a tough time for the recently broken-hearted (is it just me or did a lot of people break up in August?). However, we forget to see the perks of being single. Need to be reminded of them? Here’s a few:

  1. You don’t have to shave! Rock that beard or those not so smooth legs. It’s winter after all.
  2. You save money. No dates, no anniversaries and no gifts to buy! I spent way too much money last year (even bought for my ex’s dog!). A nice break in spending can do everyone some good.
  3. What’s so great about kissing under a plant anyway?
  4. You have more time to spend with people who will always have your back: your family and friends. Instead of missing that midnight kiss, hug your family or your friends. Those people will never let you down.
  5. Eat whatever you want! We should all be healthy but you can treat yourself without worrying about what you are eating in front of people. 
  6. You can wear whatever you want! I rock the hipster glasses that my ex loathed.
  7. You can do what you truly love with your loved ones since you don’t have to please anyone but yourself.
  8. You don’t have to worry about babysitting any drunk people but your crazy friends.

The holidays are coming up. Time to celebrate YOU!


The Modern Day Fairy Godmother